Kissing Ass Alone Won't Cut It

I am far from an expert on most things. I am still learning about the adult industry, for one thing. I am learning more about the BBW genre on a daily basis as well, and some of the subgenres present within the field.

I am also far from an expert when it comes to women, although there are times when I feel less foreign in that arena than in others that actually fall within my purview.

With all of that being said...guys, it might be time to review a few rules of engagement centering around interacting with your favorite adult industry worker. It could be a contract girl, a BBW Plumper Pass actress, a SSBBW Cam Girl, an escort...whoever or whatever floats your own particular pontoon.

1. Don't act like a jerkwad. I know, it seems utterly simplistic to have this listed first because it should seem like it is common sense. It's also a broad statement, because jerkwaddery can take on so many different forms. Look, if it's something you would never say to a civilian female (i.e. someone not in the adult industry) in an everyday setting, DON'T FUCKING SAY IT!

2. Don't ask for free shit. Be it pictures, videos, a phone call, etc. Don't beg for product. It's unbecoming, and it makes you look like a tightwad. In other words, a cheap bastard. Now, if you are a cheap bastard, that's a separate issue. But don't send tweets or direct messages asking for a special handout. If they happen to post a naked or half-naked picture on their timeline, then great. Enjoy that and only that.

3. Don't beg for sex or ask to meet. Some web girls (I hate that term, but I hate calling anyone over the age of 18 a "girl." It's my own pet peeve, but roll with it here.) do mention meeting their fans, and some are open to that. But that is on a case-by-case basis. Usually if such a thing were to occur, the woman in question would mention that in a section on her website. Or...they may advertise a special event where a fan encounter can happen. But again, those kinds of conversations are best conducted after research is done and off of social media.

4. While there are many varied fantasies that many of us guys have when it comes to women in the adult entertainment industry, please do keep in mind that they are still women. I don't care if you've seen every up close shot of their naughty bits that they've ever done in their career. I don't care if you own every scene they've put out on DVD and on the web. I don't care if you've grabbed their tits at AVN or BBW Fan Fest or Exxotica. Please remember that they are still women. They're someone's daughter. They may be someone's wife or girlfriend or mother. This relates to point number one ("Don't act like a jerkwad.") but I do think it bears repeating. She's not necessarily a slut who is only sitting around the house in a La Perla nightie (or less) 24-7 thinking only about sex.

5. Speaking of buying scenes on DVD or on the web, don't forget that this is their job. Support them like you support your favorite band or mainstream film stars. Don't visit tube sites and rip videos from there. Actually spend real American (or Canadian or whatever your currency may be) dollars and purchase a scene. I'm not going to preach about tube sites being akin to Napster/Morpheus/Limewire in the 90s and early 2000s, but it kind of is. If you don't buy clips or DVDs, or sign up for site memberships, it will be hard for the industry to continue. Allocate some of your monthly entertainment budget to cover this expense. A fan doesn't steal from the artist; a fan supports the artists financially so that they can continue to produce the art that makes the fan happy. Symbiosis is a wonderful thing, yes?

I am sure that there are more, and I would love to hear from fans and industry workers alike on this one. What would you add to these rules of engagement? What can we, as fans, do to help make interactions more enjoyable in both directions?

Leave a comment here, get in touch with me on Twitter (@Jaysonfdean) or via email at jaysonfdean@gmail.com.

Featured Scene: Lexxi Luxe on BBWs Gone Black

38P bust size? P?

Yep. It must be the gorgeous Lexxi Luxe. The woman with the amazing rack and cute smile is today's featured scene over at BBWs Gone Black.



The set up is that Lexxi wants to go out with her girls, but her man has other plans. And his other plans involve her, the couch and those wonderfully soft pillows on her chest. Oh, and some hair pulling and titty smacking, too.

You can see how his best, ahem, "laid" plans turn out over at BBWs Gone Black, part of the Plumper Pass Network.

Coming Soon: Evil Angel's "BBW GOLD" by Joey Silvera

As a long time fan of porn in general (going on about 18 years at this point), I have seen a lot that has come and gone in the industry. For me, today, there are a few name directors that I am a big fan of.

I still like Rodney Moore (even if I was a bit star struck and babbled a bit when I did get to meet him at BBW Fan Fest in July). I am also a fan of the work that Mike John and Tim Von Swine. Another director I admire is Joey Silvera.

Yeah, some of his stuff is probably a bit outside of mainstream for most folks, but I think his overall body of work speaks for itself, and I tend to think that he treats his actors with respect during filming. I don't see the thread of humiliation that tends to rear its head when dealing with subgenres and the areas that people view as fetishes. 

Imagine my excitement, then, when I heard about Joey's upcoming release called, "BBW Gold."

 Joey Silvera doing a BBW film?

Featuring Lexxi Luxe, Kelly Shibari, Betty Blac, Buxom Bella, Sam 38G and Minnie Mayhem? I'm sold. 

Review coming as soon as I get my grubby little hands on it. It comes out on October 10, 2012.

For now, drool along with me at the trailer.

 

From the, "LOL...WHUT? Are you shitting me? Files"

Reading a piece on MSN.com today about how some magazine are retouching the pictures of models. Not that this is news in and of itself, as there has been plenty written about how models are airbrushed and (controversially) made to look thinner.

But this piece, which is actually from Blisstree.com, is about the more sinister trend of taking thin models, and making them look, well, fuller.

It's called "reverse retouching" where a skinny model has weight added to the thighs, midsection and arms.

Which begs this question, as far as I am concerned: Why not used models that are fuller in the first place?

Don't tell me that there is a lack of beautiful women that are not size 00. They exist; I see them every day out here where I live in the Las Vegas area. There are beautiful women of all shapes and sizes.

I don't see the need to expend the extra effort to now perpetuate a myth at all.

If you want a thin model, use a thin model. Don't take someone and make them skinny.

If you want a fuller model, then for goodness sake, go out and find them.

The artificiality of these major fashion magazine and ads makes me want to vomit.

The Lust List, Summer 2012: A biennial review

So apparently, every two years, I get around to tackling the blog again and decide that I should probably update the lust list. After all, there are some people that didn't get on it last time that I would like to highlight, and of course there is newer talent as well.

Of course, this list is in no way, shape or form comprehensive, as I only chose nine lovely women for this entry. I am always on the lookout for others, and hopefully I can get it together enough to do more entries (making it biannual instead of biennial. We will see.)

Again, to reiterate, the main rule of the lust list is that it is attractive women that, in an ideal world I would have a chance to have sex with. That ideal world features me being in a helluva lot better shape than I am in and being involved in the adult industry. So, yes, it is pretty damn far from reality.

The only caveat at this point is that I try not to list women I've already listed.

Without further ado (and this time, with links to their Twitter handles, so follow them, damnit!):

Julia Sands
Julia's Twitter Account

Daphne Daniels
Daphne Daniels's Twitter Account

Reyna Cruz
Reyna's Twitter Account

Lexxi Luxe
Lexxi Luxe's Twitter Account

Tyung Lee
Tyung Lee's Twitter Account

Teedra Diora
Teedra Diora's Twitter Account

Jazmin Torres
Jazmin Torres's Twitter Account

Mazzaratie Monica
Mazzaratie Monica's Twitter Account

Anastasia Vanderbust
Anastasia Vanderbust's Twitter Account

Mallory Melons
Mallory Melons's Twitter Account

Veronica Vaughn
Veronica Vaughn's Twitter Account

BBW FAN FEST 2012: I meet Kelly Shibari and Get to Finger Her Pussy.

Me visiting the Fleshlight Booth and Kelly Shibari (picture courtesy of Betty Blac)

I initially wasn't going to go. Budgetarily, it was going to be a challenge to attend the inaugural BBW Fan Fest, even though it was going on about 10 miles from my home here in the Las Vegas Valley.

But being unemployed for over a year now with no prospects on the horizon, and with my bank account hovering around double/low triple digits, it was not necessarily the fiscally prudent thing to do.

(Sidebar: If you go back and look at the date of my last post on here, it was about 24 hours before I found out I was being dismissed from work due to budgetary reasons. I had a year to stay in my position. So really, while I've been unemployed for a 13 months, I've been searching for two years. And that is why I have not been on this blog in so long. That might be changing. Stay tuned.)

However, since I am still a night owl, since I don't have to get up for work bright and early anymore, I happened to be on the site, and found a reasonably priced ticket for an all day, all access pass. After crunching some numbers really quickly, I decided that the opportunity may never come along again, and I'd better jump. So I took the plunge.

I'd never been to the Tuscany Suites, even though I used to work only a couple of miles from the resort. I park, walk in the door and am completely and utterly lost. I walked around the casion floor for a while, and finally happen upon an escalator with a sign pointing towards the meeting rooms.

As I get on the escalator, I notice a guy getting on right before me. I happened to catch his face in profile. It's adult film producer/director/legend Rodney Moore. There is no mistaking that it is him.

My innate shyness takes over. Actually, it's really more like my capacity to not disturb people I don't know, although I do get over that a little bit as the day progresses.

I've chatted with Kelly Shibari on Twitter for a couple of years now, and have always found her to be thoughtful, thought provoking and considerate, and have been dying to meet her in person.

@jaysonfdean should be there from 11 on at the @Fleshlight booth :)
— Kelly Shibari (@KellyShibari) July 13, 2012

Well, okay, then. I will be there.

 I'm sitting outside the tradeshow making notes on a couch about seeing Rodney Moore when a guy walks by. Rodney had just walked out of the convention rooms and was heading back down the escalator. The guy whips his head around and says, "It's Rodney Moore. Wow." He turns to the woman walking with him and continues, "Oh, my God. It's Rodney Moore. I'm starstruck."

Ditto, my man. Ditto.

I present my ticket, get my wrist band, and enter the tradeshow. My ticket was for VIP Access on Friday, and I was determined to take advantage of that access. (Yes, I got there around 11am. I am dork.)

Claudia Marie and her husband (the band T.P. Trash) had just begun a set on the stage located at the front of the room/exhibition hall. At 11am, the ballroom was fairly empty, and people were still setting up their booths. So it was a bit of a rough start. But I had no problem looking at Claudia Marie singing, so it was all good.

(It was a rough start for me as well, as I discovered that my camera was not ready to cooperate, as I had to run out to a store to get a memory card. In the end, I didn't wind up taking too many pictures anyway, so it was a moot point.)

To head over to the stage, I had to walk past Julia Sands, who was looking lovely in a 1960's sort of mod paisley dress. She was there with All BBW Cams promoting that site. I had a blast talking to her off and on throughout the day. She was a true sweetheart.

Julia Sands and me (picture courtesy of Julia Sands)

After wandering around some more, watching people from the Tuscany and Fan Fest work hard, and watching some of the performers setting up their booths, I made my way back to the front and found Kelly Shibari signing some promotional pictures for her brand new Fleshlight. She is the first BBW model to have a Fleshlight, so this is quite a big deal. 

See? Autographed Promo Picture. Although my copy got folded up by accident.

She was in the middle of a conversation, so I hung around the fringes, waiting for the right time to interrupt. Overcoming my shyness was a big deal, but I broke the ice, and when she figured out who I was, I was greeted with a big, big hug.

Kelly was feeling a bit under the weather, but she spent way more time than she probably needed or wanted to talking with me. I also, somehow, got pressganged into helping out around the Fleshlight booth. I helped Melvin (the Fleshlight rep) with hanging up the banners for the booth and also helped Kelly with putting together and placing out some of the DVDs that she had for sale.

One of the banners I helped hang on the booth.

I joke about being pressganged, because I readily volunteered. What can I say? I'm a sucker for a smart, beautiful woman who seems so down to earth and grounded. Now I can also add award winning to this, since she won an award at BBW Fan Fest 2012 for "Fetish Site of the Year" for PaddedKINK.com. I also got a free polo shirt for providing my assistance.

Kelly playing with herself. She encouraged everyone to come play with her pussy while at the booth.

Here's where my lack of picture taking comes back to bite me, because I was able to finally meet someone else I've been chatting with on Twitter for a while, Jessika Vegas. I also got to meet Amazon Amanda, who had a wicked sense of humor and took great pleasure in ribbing me. I gave as good as she did, though. I could've talked with her for hours. I also got educated on some of the most interesting lubricant I'd ever tried by Betty Blac.

Granted, I had to call it a day early, and there wasn't much of a crowd. I did also stop by the White Party that was held on Friday evening for a little while, and it looked like a good crowd had started to show up by that point.

It was the first year for this convention, and I hope that it did well enough to come back another year. I've been to AEE twice here in Vegas, although it has been a number of years. I had a lot more fun at this event than I did either time I went to AEE.

Some of it may have been the fact that I was at this convention during a lot of the setup, so I was able to wander freely without bumping in to other people. It could have been that because I was there so early, I was able to engage some starts more easily than others and actually talk to them instead of trying to simply grab a picture and an autograph.

Would I say that I am BFF's with any of the models I met on Friday? Of course not. And I didn't really get many pictures. But the actual memories of the day and the encounters and conversations I had will linger with me forever. That makes a big difference for me.

The Lust List: Summer 2010 Edition

So it's been a long time since I posted anything here. Life and work (as usual) get in the way of one of my hobbies.

But it's summer, and that means I have a little bit more free time to play and write and observe.

What I wanted to do with this welcome back post is provide some eye candy.

Welcome to what I call the "Lust List." These are some of the women in adult entertainment that currently get my blood pumping. I wrote one of these posts a while ago (see "Dear Ms. Fantasy") but it's time to update and get more current.

Not that I would throw any of the women on the original list out of bed. Let me put it like this: If I were much (much!) skinnier and in-shape, and if I were starting an adult film company, these women would be the first ones I would want to shoot with.

Hell, even if they were willing to shoot with me in my current (ahem!) fluffy state, I'd shoot with them.

(Note: this is not a numerical ranking; there is no rhyme or reason to the order. Enjoy.)

Dawn Marie

Kelly Shibari

Carrie BBW

Sienna Hills

Peaches La Rue

BBW Glory Foxxx

Platinum Puzzy

Shameless Angel